How To Cure Disenchantment?

The soul is painful, deeply painful.

You feel that even though you have known a lot of people, have fallen in love many times, what you feel for that person, you had never felt it and maybe you will never feel it again.

He left, he says he met a new love that made him turn in his path, that he is sorry, that for him, she is no more than a friend, a sister, but that he no longer feels anything …

And while he explains it all, she feels like she’s dying from the inside out … of dying of disenchantment.

She wonders when this pain will pass… every night, she cries in silence, when no one sees her.

During the day she does thousands of things and tries to convince herself that she forgot it, but when the night comes … she starts to feel lonely and empty again, and she feels overwhelmed by that sad song that seems to be written for her.

Be patient, because disenchantment heals

As this wonderful song says, we have to forget, but we can’t. It’s not that easy to make all the memories disappear, let alone the feelings. 

Even if we try with all our strength, even if we try to have other adventures, to do thousands of things every day, to move away from the places where we were with the other and which we remember with nostalgia and tears in my eyes …

Forgetting is difficult when love invades us from within. 

When the night comes and we are alone with ourselves, when we have finished the work, the daily obligations, this love returns and we feel it intensely.

But disenchantment, just like love, is an experience that we will all have at least once, and that is why we should be happy, because we have been lucky enough to know love, this knowing what it’s.

And if even if it hurts, disenchantment also has its positive side, it is the product of something intense, precious and pretty that one day we lived and that, no one will ever be able to us. remove it.

How can we heal from disenchantment?

• Talk about and surround yourself with your loved ones. The people who love us and are by our side in the worst times can help us get out of this sadness by talking, laughing with us, and helping us put things in perspective.
  Don’t get caught up in your thoughts.

• Learn that in life there is never anything sure… except death. Think that while you were together, you were happy.
  Life is unpredictable and we have to get used to it. As the poem says: “r”.
• Enjoy your celibacy. Society tells us that happiness is always found with a person and that’s it. But the important thing is to be happy, alone or accompanied… look only for your happiness.
• Take your time. Cry, scream… but keep going. You are a whole being, you don’t need anyone else.
• Do not see this person. The wounds must heal themselves. It is not good to see the other person because it arouses the feelings. Have fun, meet new people, “flirt”… there are lots of fish in the sea…
• Don’t plan for revenge. What good is this black and ugly feeling? It will only hurt you.
  Even if the other acted badly at the end of the relationship, forgive them in your interior and let them go without resentment or need for revenge.